Committed to the Bit: Love, Growth, and the Three C’s
Am I Growing?
One of my favorite topics to explore is the philosophy of everyday life…as you might have guessed. I cherish the little moments, the joyful experiences, and everything in between. Questioning life isn’t just a habit—it’s a way of seeing the world with curiosity and appreciation which I have been doing since I was just a whittle girl. The more I reflect on the small details, the more I realize how much meaning they hold. It is one of the reasons I love design so much. To notice, to wonder, and to seek understanding is, in itself, an act of gratitude. Through this series, I’ve reflected on what it means to live, to connect, and to make sense of the world around us.
I see myself as human—not a robot, not a perfectly curated aesthetic and definitely not someone who has their life together. I have flaws, beliefs, and quirks, each shaping who I am. And the same goes for you, your aunt, the grocery store cashier, or for your favorite singer. We are all complex, imperfect, and deeply human. Through it all, we evolve—sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.
We Listen and We Don't Judge
Lately, a recurring thought has been circling my mind: intimacy and questioning how we navigate change in relationships. Truth be told, I rarely talk about my relationship with my partner and that is probably a deep-rooted closed door. My excuse is, I’m no expert in relationships however I am an expert in questioning, seeking depth from every angle. And maybe—just maybe—you’ll find a piece of insight here that resonates with your own life. Or perhaps, it is my turn to listen, and you can provide me insight on how to be a friend, daughter or partner. Either way, I think this is another opportunity to lay my cards out on the table and see just how I can change the cards I have been dealt.
When we got together, we were just two kids with barely enough money for gas or books—but we had time. Time to get to know each other, walk to the grocery store, pay off tickets on my car, and simply exist together. That was five years ago, and somehow, we still do those same things today.
In some ways, relationships feel static—because life itself can be static. We wake up, have a coffee, go to the gym, come home, eat lunch, take a shower, study, have dinner, go for a walk, write—and before we know it, it’s already time for bed. The days blend together, each one following a familiar rhythm. And over time memories can be cherished, blurred or forgotten. But beneath the surface, change is always happening, at first individually.
I used to think relationship advice was corny—phrases like “Never go to bed angry with your spouse” or “Compromise is key to any marriage” blah blah. It felt overly simplistic and almost hopelessly cliché. I often dismissed them as trite sayings that didn’t capture the complexities of real relationships. Come to my surprise they actually are very helpful, well, except for going to bed angry like that can’t be helped. Over time, I’ve come to realize that there’s a reason these pieces of advice endure. I was just too stubborn in thinking that my relationship would be perfect. I wasn't at that point in my IQ to understand that my relationship will see them come true.
The Three C's
What truly shifted my thinking was something my boyfriend said when I asked him why he hadn’t proposed yet (as a joke of course but he came at me with facts anyways), “you just want a wedding, not actually a commitment.” Don’t get your panties in a twist, I actually 100 percent agree, I do want a party, a really big party and a wedding is the perfect reason to celebrate. But after the celebration …do I really want to be a wife? Like let’s really picture me, a wife right now… yeah… I don’t think so…. maybe someday. And that got me thinking, I am really committed to this man?
People often really admire a young couple, seeing only the surface—the smiles, the laughter, the adventures. We get compliments all the time and I get the hype, it is so cute! However, what they don’t see are the behind-the-scenes fights, the hard conversations that test our patience and resolve, and the moments when one of us has to check the other (usually him checking me). They don’t see me diving back into my shell unwilling to let go. It’s in those moments that we truly learn about each other: our values, our triggers, and what it means to commit. Sometimes, it’s messy and uncomfortable, but it’s also where growth happens. The real question is: how do we navigate life together?
I am here to tell you the key, it’s the silly back-and-forth over who will clean the litter box or who took the last piece of gum in the car. The playful banter masking the underlying irritation. These small, mundane disagreements may seem trivial, but they bring out the seriousness of it all and reveal the intricacies of which our relationship is built on. Vibes and laughter. It is so easy to overlook when you're caught up in the heat of the moment. It’s in those challenging times—when misunderstandings arise or tensions flare, I am definitely not thinking about those cliché-ass quotes, instead I am thinking about my anger. And somehow, my partner is able to lift my veil by cracking a joke about how he knows what I am thinking or that I am just hangry.
To tell you the key is easier said than done, learning to communicate openly, addressing conflicts instead of letting them fester, and finding common ground through commitment are essential building blocks for any relationship. Did I know that at the age of 23 with divorce parents? Noooooo but at the age 24 I am determined to change myself. At least before I turn 25 and if that means holding myself accountable on my blog so be it. So, while it may seem like you just wake up one day, without putting in the hard work, boom! magically lying next to your partner for life and life would just be easy. Trust me I would jump at this opportunity, sadly, life is all about hardships… even in love. I hate to break it to you, thee toughest battles are often found in romantic relationships.
Starting today I advocate for the three C’s: communicate, compromise and commitment- not with my partner but within myself. Growth is an individual task but then spreads into each other. The way we talk, the things we value, the dreams we once had and the ones we have now—will all shift, sometimes subtly, sometimes drastically. The grocery store walks are the same, but the conversations are different. The shared silence feels deeper, more comfortable and filled with his farts. The stress of paying off a ticket doesn’t hit quite as hard because we’ve learned how to handle life’s inconveniences together rather than separate. And I couldn’t be more committed to the bit.
I Think it's About High Time
That leads me to the song of the week: Day Without You by Keep for Cheap. A song that captures the quiet, aching beauty of love, routine, and the passage of time in a relationship. With its dreamy instrumentals and heartfelt lyrics, the track reflects the bittersweet nature of change—how love can feel both constant and ever-evolving. The song’s soft melodies and wistful tone resonate with the theme of navigating commitment, questioning the depth of connection, and appreciating the small, everyday moments that define a partnership. It highlights the push and pull of intimacy, the challenges of growing alongside someone, and the quiet realization that love isn’t just about the big milestones—it’s about the in-between moments, the laughter, and even the frustrations that make it real. And at the end of the day, you truly don’t want to think about a day without them.
Enjoy This Journey With Me
° 𐐪𐑂 ♡ 𐐪𐑂 ₒ 𐐪𐑂 ♡ 𐐪𐑂 °
Enjoy This Journey With Me ° 𐐪𐑂 ♡ 𐐪𐑂 ₒ 𐐪𐑂 ♡ 𐐪𐑂 °
This isn’t the end—just a bookmark in the conversation. Stories don’t really close; they unfold, shift, and find new voices. If this one stirred something in you, let it breathe. Leave a thought, challenge an idea, or carry it forward in your own way. And if you ever feel like wandering through more unfinished thoughts, you know where to find me. Let’s keep the conversation alive. ~XOXO
