Song of the Week:
In’s and Outs by: Scoutcamp
In my Shell… Again
Lately, I have been experiencing quite of bit of social interactions than usual. As I scoop up more and more connection with people, I noticed that sometimes I forget the basics- like how to be human and not just a robot. Or realize that not everyone is going to think or behave in situations like I do. To cope with these big feelings, I’ve used social media, so I don’t have to feel. Which is just another thing I need to sort out, but all is not lost.
Technology is Good for Society
One thing I love about social media is how much you can learn. My favorite topics are human behavior, ranging from parenting and social gatherings to generational expectations to relationship dynamics. As an overthinker, I can’t help it. And I find this stuff fascinating. However, social media is a double-edged sword.
I believe this all started for me back in Tumblr era- around 2013. Think galaxy print, messy buns, pastel penny boards. It was when I discovered “aesthetic”. I love the idea of having a uniform taste, and wanted to upkeep such an image of myself can be a powerful tool for conveying a sense of high quality and self-knowing. But looking back, I realize the damage is caused to my authenticity on social media. I have discussed the negatives and positives of following an aesthetic before, but today, I want to talk about the unconscious damage it can do.
For example, when I try to be active on my Instagram and post about my blog, I often find myself ensuring that everything fits my “curated” theme. I say “curated” because I shy away from mainly choosing one aesthetic to follow, I like all of them and cannot settle on just one. But this expectation that my life will always be aesthetic is unrealistic. Achieving an aesthetics first costs lots of money and second a lot of effort to be “on”. I find myself feeling as if I am activating a character who showcases only one side of me. And now that I say it out loud, it eerily reminds me of online role-playing games…
I want to be authentic to my audience, and I am trying. My goal is to post what I want, when I want, and say what I genuinely feel. Maybe I am being overly critical of myself, but I can see the inconsistency in my work. I am always reminded of those videos of girls who post consistently, seemingly without a care for their friends and followers, as they strive to become influencers. It’s a freeing feeling. However, the fine line between oversharing and just sharing is a gray area for me. As I figure out where I stand, it doesn’t mean I stop posting. If anything, it means I need to find the courage to post more. Even though I am scared and anxious, the only way out is through.
Hooks, Aesthetics, Content
On the other hand, being so public on social media has its downsides. Not only is it nobody’s business to see what you’re doing 24/7, but it also keeps you glued to your phone all day. One of the reasons I quit social media was because of how easily I became addicted. Social media platforms are designed to keep users hooked, and I was no exception. Spending half my day consuming media wasn’t good for my brain, nor was it a productive use of my time. Anytime I felt bored or needed a distraction from reality, I would simply pick up my phone and scroll for hours, getting lost in an endless loop of videos.
I had to draw a line in the sand to get my life back, and it worked—until I needed the power of social media to promote my blog. But here is the thing: social media often gives us the illusion of connection. When I came back, I struggle to leave behind the idea that likes and comments are genuine interaction. At this point, we rely so much on social media for interaction that we often neglect the relationships in real life. And just when you get to the root of such a daunting feeling, social media comes to the rescue and not feel. With every con of social media, seems to be a pro to match it.
I don’t believe all connections over social media to be disingenuous; I think it does take time to build a genuine relationship through acts of likes, comments and responses. Engaging as if it was one-on- one, while also balancing face to face interaction, is key. It is a two-part act and having both can truly expand relationships. Developing certain micro dialects through memes and videos increases the chances of a beautiful relationship. I am that friend that watches every single video you send me because I believe in that, — and honestly, because I love to laugh.
I think social media has a unique way of building relationships through laughter. The sheer amount of funny content on the internet is tremendous. Finding common ground in what we find humorous is how bonds are formed, developing the sense of togetherness. So, I challenge all of you to think about how you’re using social media. Are you connecting or just scrolling? Maybe it’s time to send that funny video to a friend or take a break and reconnect in person. And if you can’t think of anyone, think of me; let me be your pal.
Don’t Settle
This week I will you all with big feelings to dissect for yourself no distraction except for this week’s song of the week. In’s and Outs by Scoutcamp is the perfect upbeat flow to reflect your social media journey. I choose this song for the title being part of my friendship series when my editorial was off track. I go in and I go out. Nonetheless, the vibe of the song fits a perfect summer day with friends. And if you want to hear more of my thoughts and see my journey stay tune on my Instagram.
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